A non-exhaustive list of self-reflective questions I try to employ at work when I’m feeling stressed, frustrated, defensive, sad, or generally any of the “ugh” emotions that we all cycle through to different degrees every day:
- How can I learn from this?
- What if I assume the best intentions?
- What might they be (feeling/needing/missing) from me to make them think/say that?
- Am I feeling defensive? Is my ego involved?
- What does my body need in this moment?
- Where did that thought come from? What’s causing me to feel this way?
- Is there something I might be missing?
- Can I articulate what I’m thinking/feeling?
- What’s a more generous perspective?
- Am I being both kind and truthful?
- What’s within my control?
- What’s the hard thing I’m avoiding? Why?
- How do I want to show up next time?
- Is this the real problem?
With Love,
Natalie