Directions: Apply liberally to troublesome thoughts that stick, ooze, and batter. Most effective when used with self-compassion and a good night’s sleep. Acknowledge the thought, […]
Design Your Downtime
I believe in designing my downtime. I’ve spent plenty of days aimless, without plans, looking up from the TV to see that ten hours have […]
Working Through Work Fuck-Ups
Yesterday, I discovered a mistake in my work so exasperating that I ended up in frustrated tears. It was a legacy mistake, something I didn’t do myself but had been affecting my world for a few years without me knowing. Because I didn’t know. And it’s my responsibility to know. Three years ago, there was a question that didn’t get asked and it’s going to have some sucky consequences.
The Time to Inhale
Brené Brown is the closest example I have to a spiritual master. Her research on shame, vulnerability, belonging, and leadership moves my life. I watch […]
Give All My Secrets Away
I was thinking about secrets last night. About how I don’t have any. Not on purpose, anyway. Not like I used to.
When You Don’t Know What To Do, Go Outside
When I was fourteen I had a hard thing to say and didn’t know how to say it.
Don’t Let Clothes Hurt Your Feelings
I was reminded of one of my mom’s many life lessons: don’t look at the size, wear clothes that fit.
In Times of Trouble, Draw a Tree
I learned how to draw trees in grade school art. Trees with intricate branches – forked, forked, and forked again until they taper to a thin point. Intricate is too fine of word for the final product of these foliage pieces: I am not an artist now and was even less so when I was nine.
That’s Why It’s Called Self-Esteem
The truth is, you will never be fully appreciated. Not by your parents. By your bosses. By your country. By your own children. But then again, why should you be? Appreciating you is not their job.
It’s your job.
That’s why it’s called self-esteem.
Discovering Heat Packs
I didn’t even know I needed heat packs until I had them. My friend Jenna sent me two homemade mini (hand warmer size) heat packs as part of my holiday gift this year and I am promptly obsessed. They are sitting on my stomach as I write.