I wrote in an old poem
In the depths of Before
Do you think I’ll believe in love after this?
Speak Gently to Yourself
I’m still working on talking gently to myself. Our internal soundtrack is our reality: loving or trashy or everything in-between our thoughts color every scene of our life. It matters how we react and perceive our outside world but it matters more how we react to our own internal monologues.
The Whimsical Affirmators
One of the more whimsical pieces of my content diet is the deck of Affirmators! cards l keep in my office. I’m the type of HR person who puts out toys and candy to try to lure unsuspecting team members into being friends with me. The cards are inspirational humorous horoscopes of positive affirmations. They are quirky and smile-worthy and take some of the cheesy-ness out positive affirmations by leaning way into it.
Starting My Queer Young-Adult Happy Endings Book Club
A few months ago I started a book club with my coworker. She had mentioned years ago that she used to belong to a queer […]
Saving Gratitudes
Happiness and gratitude are all tangled up in one another. You need to know, and know intentionally, what makes you happy and what makes you grateful. In the every day, these things fill you up with light. In the hard days, these things are a refuge. It becomes a to-do list. I love my family so I call my family. I love baths so I draw myself a bath and light a candle. It’s hard to conjure light when we’re in the dark so we need to keep some bottled from the bright days. Make a list, save it away, use it well.
Fitness: What’s Working For Me
I talked about a few things I began last year (my year of Rhythm) that finally got me in a routine for fitness that I’ve been able to hold … longer than I’ve held one in a long time. Everyone’s different, but I wanted to expand and share what’s working for me.
Cathartic Cleaning
Pick up the strewn sweaters. Recycle the emptied La Croix and Diet Coke cans on the counter. Wash the dishes in the sink. Put the facewash and hairbrush and makeup bag back in the big. Take a washcloth and wipe the surfaces clean. Straighten the pillows. Straighten the bed. Straighten the world you can control.
On the Ice
There was a day in the winter
Where we walked out on the ice
Great frozen waves cresting on the lakeshore
Blinding white but for our dark coats
Thought-Spiral Treatment Method
Directions: Apply liberally to troublesome thoughts that stick, ooze, and batter. Most effective when used with self-compassion and a good night’s sleep. Acknowledge the thought, […]
Being Easy to Please
When I say easy to please, I don’t mean for the big things and I don’t mean settling. I think we should demand the best for ourselves in love, respect, and human dignity. I think we should rally and work and get better and better. I mean, when you can, find happiness in small moments.